Love affairs

Prelude

Living is love affairs. Life means nothing without love. Love could be the purpose of life. Hmmmm...love is actually one of the purposes of life. Ultimately.. we got to have love for God. We have to seek and understand the meaning of love to God. Well, i am not trying to be religious here, all I am trying to say is that there are a lot of kind of love and it is not limited.

I want to be taking about working or business as a love affairs.Since maybe most of us understand the normal love - love to family, love to your love one.. ie love form one person to another. So, I'd like to highlight love affairs in business and working as a change.

I am saying that working and business is a love affairs. Maybe we are not thinking in that terms. But we should be thinking in that terms to know what to do and how to react. Maybe we should be thinking in that terms to be succesful and to be happy at what we are doing.

The selection

The first stage is the selection stage. Like choosing patner when falling in love, this kind of love has to be mutual as well.

If we are the employee, we are to choose the organisation, the environment and the people, where we are to work. The situation is vice versa.If we are the employer, we are to chose the people according to our requirements. We have to look into the values that the person possessed. Each organisation have their own values which are unique to them and the person to be employed is to share that values. Else it will be chaos and imbanlance.

It is a matching process where the core values of the employee and employer has to be identical and tally. When we in love we look for chemistry. So there shall be chemistry in term of working bonding. The fact is that sometime even the best employee and the best employer could not be the ideal match. The relasionship simply wont work. The reason is that they may share different values and expect diffrent outcome out of the working relationship.

I'd like to stress that as in human love, it is very rare that we chose the right partner at the first time. Our partner selection can be spot on if we are lucky enough. But it is definately rare. We make mistakes in choosing but along the process our gut feeling will be sharper. Of course, we have to follow our gut feeling and just choose and see where it will take us. We have to be careful in choosing just to save possible time wasted. But on top of that, it is a gamble and we must try and we must make the selection decision.

The fact remain when choosing an employeer and employee. You have to follow your gut feeling and make the selection decision.

In between.

When we are done with selection decision, the relationship starts. The process of actual facts finding of things that we share in common and our differences begins. We will begin to discover who we are and who our partner is.

When in a relationship and working bonding we have to have a clear mind and determination to make it work. To make it work we have to put it our best efforts.

So we should have a clear mind while in the relationship to discover our strength and weaknesses. Along the way, we have to enhance our strength and minimise our weaknesses. We have to exploit the strength that we have in common and work out our differences.

As the relationship goes further it gets more complex. Peolple will discover more of themself especially rather then discover more of their partner. It gets more complex as our environment changes, our need changes and mostly it gets complicated going forward because we evolve and change along the way. So we will encounter new needs and new differences that we need to fulfil and work out.

That is why we should have clear mind all the time in relationship. Both have to realised that we and our partner changes all the time. Changes rate between the partner is different and we should be aware of that. The different rate of changes is influence by the differnt rate individual exposure to different environment.

Same goes to our business and working bonding. As business environment changes all the time, the organisation has to change to adapt. As soon as the organisation changes, the employee has to make changes as well and vice versa. Everybody has to adapt to changes to make it work and to ensure their relevence in the relationship.

That is why when in relationship, effort has to be put in all the time to accomodate chances and to stay relevence. If not the relationship will start to accumulate unsolved differences and always the effort put in has to be mutual to make it last.

When only one party put in effort to accomodate changes and evolve into something better, we have to communicate to our partner of the requirement to change and work out the new differences. When both adapt to changes and work out the new differences the relationship will become stronger. However if one party refuse to adapt to changes we have to put in effort to make them change. Unfortunately, if it does work out and the other partner refuse to tag along, then harsh decision has to be made on the relationship. Delaying on the decision will only mean suffering. Delaying mean it is the start downfall of the relationship or the love affair or the organisation.

To be editted and to be continued